I’ve been thinking about this for a long time. These
thoughts have been bouncing around in my head, trying to get organized, trying
to get voiced. To put these thoughts out there makes me feel a little bit like
a Whistle-blower I’m ratting out my people. But the truth is the truth, and in
my little corner of the internet, this is the truth as I see it.
Years ago, before electricity and the invention of the
wheel, I began homeschooling. It was a very serious and frightening undertaking.
I, who owns no diploma of higher education, was saying to the world, “I think I
can do a better job educating my child than a trained diploma-ed teacher!” That’s pretty bold, and some would say,
arrogant.
We began. We dug in. We bought all the texts, and took all
the tests, and read all the books. I had all the scope and sequences and I followed
them to the letter. I was not going to screw this up!
The years passed and I became a little more relaxed. I
figured out how my children learned best and we went with it. I tailored the
education to the child. As they got older and the subject matter more frightening,
(Hello dissections and algebra!) we began to take classes here and there
outside of our home at home school co ops and community colleges. But never, in
all those years, did I fail to take seriously this undertaking called
Homeschooling. Sure, we had failures.
Kids forgot homework for co op classes, things were let slide, things got
pushed to the back burner during times of stress, but the nagging, brutal,
understanding that ‘This was their
education!’ was never far from my mind.
Over the years I’ve seen a very concerning trend among my
people. The only thing I can think to call it is a lack of seriousness, of weightiness
put on this thing called homeschooling.
When I first started there was really one main way a child
was homeschooled. You got the books from the publishers, those publishers who
sold to Christian schools too, and you used them. One textbook for each
subject, just like in a classroom. This became rapidly overwhelming to accomplish.
8 textbooks x 3 or 4 kids? With only one teacher?
So we told ourselves to relax, to combine. That they would
learn. It would be okay. And it was. Turns out, there really is more than one
way to skin a cat (just ask my kids who’ve taken Anatomy and actually skinned a
cat!) You can teach multiple ages history at one time. You can do science experiments
together. You can have the older child read to the younger. You can teach grammar
in one year, intensively, in Jr. High instead of a little every year. So we all took a deep breath and relaxed a
little.
But I think maybe, as it often happens, the pendulum has
swung too far in the other direction. I am seeing homeschooling families where
both parents work an 8 to 5 outside of the home. How does that work? I mean, if
you have someone else (grandma, a friend, etc) doing the schooling, great. But
there really are Jr. High/High School kids at home doing their school alone.
Really? I have a Jr. High Student. I’m not seeing it. I have seen parents who sign up their children
for classes at our local home school co op and then don’t oversee anything and
their kids don’t do the work. But I bet that class is still showing up on their
transcript as completed.
I’m seeing elementary age children who, frankly, are never
taught to sit down and stop talking! I know, I know, it sounds awful. But there
it is. There are places in this world that are not a child’s playground or
classroom. Sometimes they share space with others; adults and children alike,
and they need to know their place. I have seen a lack of respect for places and
people among my homeschooling compatriots that makes me shudder. Yes, children are learning all the time but that does not mean it’s perfectly okay to let little Suzy climb
all over the seats while the rest of us are trying to listen to the
presentation.
I’m all for exploration, but let’s be respectful! There is a time
to listen. To not talk. To not voice ones opinion. To not ask questions. There
is a time for children to be quiet and let the adults talk. Why are our
children not learning this anymore? Because I’m telling you, their
public/private school counterparts sure are. They have to take turns, and line
up, and be quiet. They have to learn that there is a time to explore and be inquisitive, and a time to be still.
This is not a public vs. private vs. home school commentary.
I am no longer in the camp, ‘There is only one right way.’ I see benefits and
drawbacks to all educating choices. But Homeschooling Parents? It’s time to
take a long, hard look at what kind of children we’re putting out into the
world.
We seem to have swung from those homeschooling kids who win
all the Spelling Bees and Geography Bees, and can recite all the Presidents in
order, and who graduate at 12 because they never take summer break, to kids who
simply don’t know how to behave in public and have a ‘B’ listed on their high
school transcript for a class they didn't turn in any homework for.
Perhaps we should aim for something a little more in the
middle. A little healthier. We don’t all have to be rocket scientists, but it
would be great if we could all at least learn how to behave.
~ A Concerned Homeschooling Parent
(Who will now be moving, and changing her name.)
